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Sherry for some reason I was thinking about you this morning – and I got this big smile imagining you in your brand new home. It is so awesome to see you so happy and having a positive focus away from gambling. How is your hubby feeling about being in his new home? I am sure that as you walk through your home you want to pinch yourself to see if you are dreaming. Now that is a better feeling than leaving a casino in despair and hating yourself!!!! I know that you are busy as well with all that you want to do now that you have moved into your home, but it is a good busy!!! Enjoy your wonderful gamble free day!!!!One day at a time my sweet lord…
Liz it’s only 3 months since your husband **** and it is going to take time to grieve. All I can say is be patient with yourself and just do what you feel is right. If your are not ready to go through his personal things then just wait until you are. There is no time line for grieving. It’s what feels right to each individual. I have heard of a charm where you can put a few of the ashes and wear on a necklace. It may be a way to do both. You could scatter his ashes, but keep a little bit to keep a part of him close to you. I just did a quick search and this is a ling if you are interested in finding out more about it http://www.evrmemories.com/
Have you gone looking for your new living room furniture yet? What are your plans today? One day at a time and you will get through this.
One day at a time my sweet lord…Carole, I have found it interesting as I get more "mature" that I seem to need more quiet time or space to myself. I loved all the hustle and bustle when I was younger, but now I do like alone time. It will be surprising how fast the time goes and then when everyone leaves you will be missing them and finding it too quiet. I do hate the mosquitoes though. I need to go buy some flowers and get them planted this weekend, although they are now forecasting rain!!! I will do what I can do and not stress about it. Lock yourself in your bedroom and shut everyone out to get some quiet time!!!One day at a time my sweet lord…
Congratulations on your year free of gambling. It is wonderful to read about people who are having a gamble free life as it shows other cg’s that it can be done. It is 7 months gamble free for me and I know that I have to be aware and not get complacent as I made 7 months before and ended up gambling again. It is one day at a time, and there are good days and bad days, but it is worthing working towards a gamble free life. Enjoy your gamble free life – you deserve it!!!One day at a time my sweet lord…
Hi iluv – I hope that you come back and read some of the posts. I can remember when I first started on GT it was like a life line to come here and get posts from others that understood how we felt. You can do it iluv and it is by just taking it one day at a time. You have made the first step by coming here. I know that I would come to this site and read the stores of others before I actually registered, and then after I made my first post I went on a gambling binge. It was the panic in me thinking about never gambling again. I know longer think about never gambling again – I think about getting through this one day at a time!!! Welcome to recovery iluv.One day at a time my sweet lord…
WTG – SG – would I wish I could do a 1K run – what a positive focus rather than gambling!!! It is great when we know our triggers and to be aware of them. I know that I had urges a while ago and did not trust myself so only took $20 in my purse when I went anywhere. I think we start to learn when our resistance is down and put things in place to protect ourselves. I know though that sometimes there is a fight going on in my head – the angel saying don’t go and the devil saying go!!! I am not hearing voices in my head LOL, just the thoughts that come with urges. Keep doing what you are doing. All any of us can do is take it one day at a time!!!One day at a time my sweet lord…
Liz, it is hard for any of us to understand what you are going through. I know when I read about your daughter coming to go through your husband’s personal belongings my heart just felt for you. I would imagine that it is going to be very difficult and emotional for you. I am glad that your daughter is coming to help as that will be a support for you. All I can say is keep doing what you are doing as you really are working your way through this difficult time the only way you can. It is one day at a time – good days and bad days. It never gets better, but with time it gets easier. I hope you had a good sleep last night.One day at a time my sweet lord…
(((Carole))) it is amazing how this addiction stays with us all the time. You have so many barriers up to protect yourself from getting cash so when you drew out the cash you did limit yourself to the damage as you could not access more cash. It is good that you are coming on GT and admitting your gambled as you are being honest with yourself and others. I think you are making yourself more accountable by posting here, and telling Danny that you gambled. I know that it is not easy. I also know that for me if I went once then I would be feeding the addiction and once would not be enough for me. I would be going back again and again and fighting to get in recovery. I don’t know if you still do your calendar with the black X when you gambled. I did that all of last year and I still have it. I was looking at it the other day and there were more nice bright green Xs on it than black, but October did not have anything on it as it was a bad month for me. I am sure if you did a calendar that you would see a big difference from when you first started recovery. Wishing you a happy and gamble free day because you are so worth it!!!!One day at a time my sweet lord…
Larry, I don’t post every day and don’t read all the posts, but for some reason the "norm" on GT is always seeing your posts. I know that you posted in the June ODAAT, but I did not see other posts from you so I went searching for you to see that you were okay. I am sorry that you had that fall and are now having sinus problems. I don’t know if I ever told you how much of an inspiration you have been for me on this site. You have helped me more than you know. I have learned so much from you. I am so thankful for your honesty when you had your slip or gambled as it shows that we have to all be aware no matter how long we have gamble free. I know that we can have gamble free time, but I understand so well that we are all the same distance away from placing our next bet. I will continue to work on recovery one day at a time. I know there will be good days and bad days, but also that gambling is not the answer. Stay strong and look after yourself. Having a wonderful gamble free day!!!!One day at a time my sweet lord…
Hi Carole, I have not seen you post for a few days, but I am presuming that you have been busy with the garage sale. I am sure that you are happy that it is over. I don’t think people realize how much work they are. I hope that it went well. I really miss when I come here and don’t see any posts from you. I had a great visit with my grandsons, but I noticed that I felt a bit down afterwards as I was missing them. We did a Skype on Sunday so that has helped again. We are selling our trailer that we bought a couple of years ago. The site we had it parked at was right on the water, but it was a small camp site with only about 8 trailers and very remote and we are thinking of getting one out East close to our son, his wife and our grandsons. We will have to sell this one first and then we will decide. Please post soon to let us know you are okay. Take care Carole!!!One day at a time my sweet lord…
Liz, I notice the difference in your post when you have your little grandson around. He gives you a focus and keeps your spirits lifted. I think you should volunteer somewhere that you can be with kids or cuddling the babies in ICU. Although it depends if you want adult company when you volunteer. I also know there are seniors that are lonely and need a visit. I don’t know what I would do if I volunteered at something. My work keeps me too busy right now, but I know that I would love holding the babies. I went out last night with friends, there are 10 of us in a book club but sometimes we don’t even talk about the book. It was the wind up for summer so we went for dinner. It was so much fun and I notice that it has lifted my spirits. There are about 5 of us that are going to the theatre in a couple of weeks – a light comedy about girls. I am looking forward to that. It shows me that I need to do things for me that I enjoy. I know that you go to different support groups and that is awesome, but is there any organizations/groups that you could get involved with just for fun. The book club we go to is so much fun – laughter seems to help lift the spirits. Take care Liz and be kind to yourself. I am going for a pedicure soon – and I am going to start thinking about it now!!! One day at a time my sweet lord…
(((Liz))) you are going through so much right now dealing with the loss of your hubby and it is a very emotional time, and I would imagine it must be quite lonely and scary for you as well. I know that you are an intelligent person who knows gambling is not the answer, but we are human and I can imagine in your situation that I would want to escape from everything. It is good that you posted about it as then you know we are all looking out for you. I was speaking to someone who lost her hubby and she said that right after it happened she had to keep busy and she worked lots of hours. Also, a friend lost her husband a number of years ago and she was still working, but she totally decorated her home and was always busy doing that. Although she was younger then and able to do it. I wish I knew the answer for you Liz, but I know you will find out what support and help is there for you and take it. I would say don’t beat yourself up as you are dealing with so much right now. Keep posting Liz!!!! One day at a time my sweet lord…