[Butterfly2019]

Hello, I have just read your story and can’t imagine what you are going through.

I myself am going through a similar situation as your husband and I plan on telling my father tomorrow, I really hope he is going to be as understanding as you seem to be.

I only joined this site this evening looking for advice myself however I would like to say to you, it took a lot of courage for your husband to tell you what he has done.

I know my secrets have been eating and eating away at me for months, I only last week was considering suicide as my life insurance will cover my debts, very similar to your husband.

Regarding the business loan, I wouldn’t like to tell you what to do as only you can make that decision as you know deep Down that this could end very badly for you however, if he is honestly holding his hands up and really wants to be done with it, you take control of the money. Don’t let him have access and that way, you are going ahead with what you wanted and you know the funds will be safe. I am sure he would see this as reasonable.

I wish you the best of luck with everything.

I really feel for you, you must feel so betrayed but remember gambling doesn’t make you a bad person, the just made bad choices.

X

[Butterfly2019]

Hi hunny, just read your posts and I’m sorry to hear you relapsed again.

Congratulations on being pregnant what a nice thing to focus on!

I am starting my journey now, haven’t told anyone yet but need to get it off my chest. Everything you have said, I completely relate to.

It’s a big relief to see you managed to stop, even if you did relapse, you know you can do it again!!

Thinking of you and wish you all the best
X

[Butterfly2019]

firstly thank you for taking the time to reply, I really appreciate it! 

I think something I am worrying about is the fact that if I can’t even get my head around what I have done, how is he supposed to?!i honestly cannot believe I have done this and I’m strugglimg to come to terms with what I have done. i don’t know if that makes it better or worse…

my father is quite bad tempered and  i think the thing I feel worst about is that he came from nothing as a child, built an amazing business and still works extremely hard for his money and I have literally taken advantage of his trust and thrown it all away. 

I canr forgive myself so surely he won’t be able to forgive me. I’m not a bad person. I wanted to buy a house but couldn’t get a mortgage due to bad decisions with payday loans when I was 19/20. I really really wanted to buy a house so I stupidly thought if I could win enough money by gambling, I wouldn’t need a mortgage and would be happy, little did I know what I was getting myself into. 

I wonder whetehr I am actually addicted to gambling or whetehr I was selfish and stupid that I just needed some more money and was very neive.

honestly, Reading this back I sound like a stupid little girl. I just wish I wasn’t in this mess and could turn back time!!

x

[Butterfly2019]

I have been gambling through my whole wages over the last 2 years to try and win it back. I have also lost this. I am in a well paid job but I just can’t come to terms with what I’ve done.

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