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You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Friends

Don’t overlook the value of friendship. Don’t neglect friends.

Friends are a joy. Adult friendships can be a good place for us to learn to have fun and to appreciate how much fun we can have with a friend.

Friends can be a comfort. Who knows us better, or is more able to give us support, than a good friend? A friendship is a comfortable place to be ourselves. Often, our choice of friends will reflect the issue we’re working on. Giving and receiving support will help both people grow.

Some friendships wax and wane, going through cycles throughout the years. Some trail off when one person outgrows the other. Certainly, we will have trials and tests in friendships and, at times, be called on to practice our recovery behaviors.

But some friendships will last a lifetime. There are special love relationships, and there are friendships. Sometimes, our friendships – especially recovery friendships – can be special love relationships too.

Today, I will reach out to a friend. I will let myself enjoy the comfort, joys, and enduring quality of my friendships.
Hey Larry,
I couldn’t say it better-thank you for being a friend and congrats!
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He He Deb!
Funny to get up and have my morning coffee and see two squrrels running around! There are not many near Carols house but with the dogs that should be no suprise! lol! Truth be told I didn’t even see one! The humming bird who had coffee with me and Mick is missed. I will have to settle for the black birds and cardnals that are around here. I am still sleepy but I need to do a little wash and get some grocerys in.
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Hi guys,
Sitting in the airport, one hour till my flight. I had a great time with the gals, afraid i may have scandalized Carole and Cat by taking them into a “girlie” type shop! We laughed so hard the young cashier was smiling at us. As Cat said it was a Hoot!
The gifts of recovery are wonderful. If i had not been a Cg i would have never known these wonderful people or had this lovely trip. I feel loved today.
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I’m up at at it-normal time for me. Even on vacation I am up too early!
Yea I was outside when the Coyotes howled last nite. Mic howled right back! If I were a Coyote I would leave him alone! lol!
That would be like attacking a bear!
I tried to upload my fishing catch last night on FB but didn’t see it this morning so I am trying again.
Sunrise is beautiful here.
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Back from a boat ride and fishing W/ Caroles family. Anyone who knows me on FB I posted a video and photo.
Had a nice relaxing day, including a nap!!
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Hey gf!
I am having coffee on porch. Mic, the big dog is barking at the other dogs. It is Loud! Lol!
Need to have my coffee!
Trip went smoothly. Typing on the tablet is tricky and i am still halfasleep.
Tc!
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I have arrived!!! WHOO HOO!

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Hi Deb!
Well I am off! Wish you were coming too!
Remember Michicagan in the Fall!!
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Hi Guys,
Sleeps are over and I am getting ready to leave for the airport. Didn’t sleep much-no suprise there-but maybe I catch a wink or two on the plane.
I’ll check in this week.
So excited!!
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Hi Guys,
Now Carole, bettie+guy ( any guy ) = zilch!
No he’s not married and he doesn’t have a girlfriend but he does have a same sex life partner. I am glad for him. It must be so nice to be comfortable in your own skin. He seems happy. He had a very hard life as the son of an alcoholic. I remember some awful things that happened to him when we were kids. He deserves the happiness he has found.
Brother called-he wants a name and address of where I am "really" going-lol! He said if I went missing he wouldn’t know where to send the cops to find me! Remember- he doesn’t know about my CG- or my recovery friends. I think he thinks I am going to meet some strange man from the internet. Poor brother!
My brother also finished off my balcony and it lookd pretty good. I have to think of something nice to do for  him.
3pm and I need to pack!
One more sleep!!
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Hi Simon,
Once we cross the line into compulsive gambling there is never a "win" big enough to keep us from the next bet. All "winning" does is enable us to gamble more-and dig a deeper hole. My old sponser likes to ask new people "Name your price. Whats the one dollar amount that would prevent you from placing the next bet?" Really there is no answer.
Back to basics Simon. No money no gamble. Ask yourself why do you have access to so much cash? Why tempt or test yourself?
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Hi Guys,
So glad the package got there Deb!
My friend called and we are on for lunch tomorrow. He really wants – guess what- Chicago style pizza! Of Course! Thats what everyone who comes to Chicago wants! ( NOT St Louis Larry-CHICAGO PIZZA! LOL!!)
I finished touching up the balcony and now it is about to storm! I am praying it is dry enough or my brother will have me rescraping and repainting!
As soon as my head stops hurting I am going to clean this pig sty. Painting gives me a headache!
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Hey Kiddo,
I called but u were asleep!
Catch u tomorrow!
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"Yo ho ho and a bottle of rum!" LOL!
Just home from my meeting-stuck in a traffic jam-road construction! I almost exited early then said to myself-na! Dummy me!
I hope to finish the balcony tomorrow and I hope to hear from my friend on Sunday.
I am pooped-long day!
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3 sleeps!!
 

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Deb,
Remember the conversatation we had about being the worlds biggest idiot? I WIN HANDS DOWN! What a waste of 20 minutes of my life! And I miss this jerk too!
It is ok to feel sorry -to a point. Just remember-Michigan in the fall!-And YOU matter, ESP to ME!
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