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Good on ya for seeking out supportive, understanding people. When I first found this site was really desperate for some sort of answers so searched online- after seeing a counsellor who sorta said- "oh well looks like you know what you need to do and have your head around it all- you’ll be fine"- i got home and after gambling some more- searched online for some sort of explanation or reasons- or some stories from others in the same situation- i thought i was the only one with this problem.
When i found this site it was an eye opener- i had no idea so many others experienced pretty much the same cycle as me and also found themselves confused about it.
I feel for ya- that you dont have much support- but i can relate. My mother says the same thing- ‘just dont go’. Even tho she knows first hand about gambling problem- ive seen her behave exactly like myself while gambling. When i told her proudly that i had decided to give all control of money over to my bf she scoffed and said "thats a stupid idea- how do u expect to get through life without having money on you? Or what if he just leaves with all the money or spends it all?"…(and on and on…) So Ive decided to not even talk to her bout gambling or what i am doing to stop- or my progress because i just dont need the drama. (my boyfriend says- "our money and what we do with it is our business anyways babe- and if she dont want to be supportve wen ur taking practical steps to help yourself- then forget about her support- her opinion will only undermine your efforts." So im going with that.
Just really gotta take steps in your recovery for yourself- and get the support where you can.
Stay strong and gamble free.Seven years is an excellent achievenment- Congratulations!
That is so inspiring to see that years can go by without gambling. Really awesome.Good you want to get help. This site is really good- alot of great people and very supportive community.
I can see why you feel that selling your house will send a negative message about yourself in regards to your reputation workwise- but in reality it is probably a sound financial decision- albeit brought on by unsound financial decisions. (but then again gambling is not about financial decisions)
Recognising you have a gambling problem and getting help for it is a really good move. Its never too late and your life will improve in leaps and bounds without gambling.
Stay connected here- alot of great support- and advice- especially about barriers etc.
Stay strong and gamble free.You seem pretty laid back Jayson and i can relate to being tired and over it.
Think ya just gotta take it one day at a time and get some rest.
Stay strong and gamble frre.Sayin No is an option.
Choosing a life without gambling is an option.
Being a healthier person is an option.
And being honest with yourself is an option.
What i see you are saying gordie is that you cannot deceive yourself and say gambling is not a choice you can make- and by accepting that you are choosing not to gamble you feel empowered about that choice- and your resolve is strengthened.
I can see what bettie says too- there is no way gambling is an option anymore- and that strengthens her resolve also. It’s a mental barrier- and works well for her.
You two seem like you are doing excellently in staying gamble free- so u must be doing the right thing for yourselves- you are both very inspiring and i enjoy reading your posts.Sayin No – это вариант.
Выбор жизни без азартных игр – это вариант.
Вариант – стать более здоровым человеком.
И быть честным с собой – это вариант.
Я вижу, что вы говорите, Горди, что вы не можете обмануть себя и сказать, что азартные игры – это не тот выбор, который вы можете сделать – и, признав, что вы выбираете не играть, вы чувствуете себя уполномоченным в отношении этого выбора – и ваша решимость укрепляется.
Я тоже понимаю, что говорит Бетти – азартные игры больше не подходят – и это также укрепляет ее решимость. Это ментальный барьер, и ей это хорошо подходит.
Вы двое, кажется, отлично справляетесь, оставаясь свободным от азартных игр – значит, вы должны поступать правильно для себя – вы оба очень вдохновляете, и мне нравится читать ваши сообщения.Só tenho que dizer que adoro dinheiro – é maravilhoso.
Não avalio meu valor em comparação com o que está em minha conta.
Mas hey, é uma medida tangível – às vezes espiritualidade – características etc etc é menos de um valor facilmente medido do que dinheiro – tão fácil ver como as pessoas medem seu valor com o dinheiro.
Contanto que você esteja feliz e saudável – o que é importanteJust gotta say i love money- it is wonderful.
I dont measure my worth compared to what is in my account tho.
But hey it is a tangible measure- sometimes spirituality- characteristics etc etc is less of an easily measured value than money- so easy to see how people measure their worth with money.
So long as youre happy and healthy- thats whats importantGood on you Jen for coming back.
This site is great and alot poeple with great advice and really good attitudes.
Gambling is a tough habbit to kick- and can really mess with your head.
Have you put any barriers in place? II was reluctant because i thought "well i need to have control over my money- someone else cant do everything for me forever"- But this time around i gave all control of the finances to my partner- and it has given me time without the temptation- because i simply cannot gamble with no money. Its a good tool- and it can help put some distance between your habbit and your intentions to stay gamble free.
They say excluding is great too- not realistic for me either- so limiting access to money is what i do.
Great of u to come back- stay strong
Congratulations Erin on your great progress! Being so honest with your family and making the decision to stop gambling for your own good.
I have dreamt about gambling also- and it always makes me feel annoyed when i wake up. Always about the big win. As if thats going to happen. Now i see those dreams as a bit of a sneak peek into the subconcious seed that is planted in there- like maybe thats an underlying belief or something and thats why i gamble- do i honestly beleive that i will win? probably.
Anyways- good on you for returning here- i have reeturned too- i sopped cos i started gambling and was too occupied with that- but its good to be back and heading in the right direction.
Stay strong and gamble freeNice post. Lovely words