[aellis]

Hi Sunny,

I understand what you’re going through. There is nothing more insulting than watching your partner blow 6 months of your salary right before your eyes. As far as I know my boyfriend has never touched my money (due to a previous boyfriend stealing $10,000 from me I keep everything separate it’s not because I don’t trust him). That being said I don’t trust him, not with money. $1,500 is almost a moths salary for me. It’s a lot of money for me too. One night he told me about this “rush” he gets from winning and it’s the best feeling in the world. Better than anything else. Once he told me that I knew he was hooked and I felt so unwanted. I know it’s the dopamine in his brain, but it still made me feel like I didn’t make him want me. That might sound selfish but everyone wants to feel wanted. I hate to be blunt but it will only get worse. I’ve been dealing with this and denying it for three years. I’ve been promised love and marriage and I don’t even think he wants to take me out to dinner, forget getting married. When you get to know someone really well you start to know when they’re lying to you. Don’t be in denial, I don’t know if this makes sense but when he’s heading to the casino even when I’m at work or cooking dinner I’ll just sense it. I feel it in my gut like an anxious feeling of “something’s wrong” he gets ticks and acts a certain way when he’s fixing to leave. I see it coming every time. Don’t fall for the lies. For example today in the car I was holding his hand while driving and his fingers were twitching and he couldn’t focus he kept looking in different directions. I said “you’re going to the casino again aren’t you?” He denied it, and then not even 15 minutes after we got home I catch him getting dressed. He tried to tell me I gave him the idea but that’s a lie. I just called him out on it. I honestly hope it gets better for you. But your husband has to get help and you can’t just take his word for it. I hope it gets better.

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