[little lady]

Hi

I don’t really know where to start. I am 38 years old and have just split from my partner of 18 years. I started gambling again about 7 months ago and I need to stop. I have run up huge debts, all my credit cards are maxed out and I don’t know what to do.

I have no one to talk to, last time I gambled my parents helped me about and paid my debts but I can’t tell them this fine. They would be so disappointed and I am still paying them back from last time.

I can’t see a way out this time. I literally worry about money all the time – I can’t sleep and when I do I wake up thinking about my debts.

I really need some help,

[i-did-it]

Hi Little Lady
It is horrible when we are hit with this addiction- when we realise we cannot stop- when we finally start to see that the big win to cover the debts isn’t coming – and even if it does come we end up gambling it.
However , there are many people on here who stop gambling and have very prosperous lives-debts can be paid off slowly while allowing funds for a good life.

Do you know about barriers little lady – things which make it difficult to gamble- like gambling blockers on your internet devices , maybe get someone else to look after your money, and cutting up and cancelling all cards you have used to gamble.
You have taken the first step to stopping. Well done and I hope to get to know you better on this site

[finding_laura]

Hello Little Lady,

I am hoping that you are still here reading and looking into getting help. So often people post and then within a couple days the feelings fade and they are back in action. Have you thought about putting in place any of the barriers suggested above? How are you doing? Please take care, Laura

[gambler1234]

Ive been gambling for 15 years or so. Ive been doing okay, no financial difficulties until last year gambling took over my life. I literally gambled all my money and took loans to gamble. I placed hundreds of bets everyday. There probably wasnt a minute I didnt have any bet going. 1st round I ended up losing more than 25k. My parents bailed me out and I was paying them back and promised I never gambled again. It didnt take long until I was gambling again.. took 2-3 months and I had made 25k more debt.. I couldnt sleep and the anxiety was taking over.

Finally I had to go back to my parents and confess everything.. I had been lying for months. Felt horrible.. I had let everyone down. Shame was probably the only feeling I had.

Now I have 50k loan to pay.. takes 700 a month for 8 years or so.. gonna try to pay it back sooner though.

Its probably day 30, havent placed a single bet. It hasnt been that hard.. only the thought about paying the loan back is depressing.

Just go and tell someone… Its propably the first step to get out. Take care!

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