[bodeni61]

I just tried to share with my husband about finding this group. He gave me that disgusted look as if I had just come home from a gambling spree. My sick mind is telling me, “Go gamble, that will show him for not wanting to listen to me.”
I am only starting my 4th day gambling free and he has no reason to trust me or believe that I want to change. It just hurt me that he wouldn’t listen.

[finding_laura]

lying or hiding things from our partners, family, and closest friends. It would be a rare CG that would tell their partner about every time they gambled and about how much they lost. So when our partners find out how truly bad we are and how much we have been lying/hiding it really hurts. Much like we have been cheating on them I would suppose. I guess what I’m trying to say is that his feelings are legitimate. But you are here, having found a tremendous place of insight, healing and help! So glad that you have found this place! It was a life line for me when I was drowning in my addiction and destroying all the really mattered to me. I was just twisted up in my addiction I didn’t really see it. I have been gamble free for 5 years and I’m here to say it is possible. To get this monster out of your life. To go days without thinking about it. And then mostly just a weak thought to be pushed away. Your husband will hopefully come around when he sees you making the necessary changes in your life to stop gambling. When he sees you staying home or going to a class instead of gambling, when he sees you working on this addiction, GA or counselling, those are some of the things that will help him to see you are really serious about changing. Those things take time. One day at a time you can make the changes you need to. What can you do today to grow your recovery? Take care, Laura

[charles]

Hi Bodeni, I have replied to you on your other thread and pretty much cover what you have said here. Give your husband cause to believe you by the actions you take now.

Can i suggest you stick to one thread? It makes it easier for others to respond and things are less likely to get missed. It will also be useful and easier for you to have one thread to look back on as you move forward in recovery.

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