[HelpImaBug]

This last couple of weeks has been hellish. I have lost everything including the money I had set aside for income tax and sales taxes. I’m hooped. I drained all my accounts, maxed out my credit card. I’ve hit rock bottom. I’m hiding this from my husband and family. He knows I have a problem but not how bad it is. I don’t know how I’m going to hide these devastating losses – I don’t think I can. I never want to be in this place again. I am dealing with a lot of self loathing right now.

[Steev]

I know I felt that at times when I knew I HAD to stop gambling but couldn’t.
I think it is useful to separate the behaviour we have from ourselves – so I learnt to loathe the gambling, NOT myself.
It is difficult to care for ourselves if we are full of self-loathing and care is what you need right now.
Care enough that you will put barriers in place to stop you from gambling – ban yourself from places where you could gamble and carry as little finance as possible.
When your family does find out about the scale of your losses, get them on-side to help you with this – if possible by handling your finances until you are strong enough in your recovery to take them back.
Get support locally from GA or another self-help group or seek out counselling specifically for gambling or for addiction in general. Stop the self-loathing, loathe gambling. Be kind to yourself.

[dunc]

Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

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