[Granfalloom]

Starting a change in the right direction.

[Granfalloom]

– stay out. This will require work.
– you never win in the end. Short term gains are always gone in time and you end up worse off than when you started.
– remain positive. As hard as that is always remain positive.
– concentrate on what you can control.

[dunc]

Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!

Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

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And on that note….

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Take care

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[dunc]

Hi  Granfalloom

Maybe you could tell us a little about you and what has bought you here?

Kind Reards

[Granfalloom]

Thanks.

I’ve lost my life savings and have debt now for the first time in my life. Very very disappointed in myself……

[Granfalloom]

Won it back a couple of times only to give it all back… sound familiar……… need to learn coping mechanisms in order to not repeat the same insanity again!!

[Dark Energy]

hi Granfalloom,
can you till us your story so the members can guide you and advice you what to do.

[Granfalloom]

My story

Lost my life savings

Have debt

And still keep going back. Ugh

Would like to have coping mechanism to keep out. To stay out.

[Dark Energy]

well, it cost me a few years and more than 200,000 $ half of it was loans and credit card untill I hit rock bottom and to understand and to admit the following points ” you didn’t explain more about your story i hope you have not gone that far on this addiction”, however the below points I hope can helps you:

1: you should admit that you can’t win money gambling ( i believe you already know that, if you still have any doubts that you can win money gambling you can go through this forum to know that it is not possible).

2: admitting point 1 is not enough, it is an addiction, you may say I will stop after I have lost lot of money but once you calm down and you have an access to an extra money you will gamble again ,you will start convincing your self that ( you will reduce your losses, I will gamble with x amount only, I will do it only one more time and then stop …etc) and guess what the result will be .
If you lose the first bet you will start chasing your losses until you lose all your money, if you win you will continue gambling because of the euphoria and you will not stop until you lose all your money.

3: if the above points are clear for you and you agree on them then we can move to how to fight back, “it took me 2 to 3 years to admit that”.

4: how to fight back:
4.1: don’t keep everything to your will power, it may work for some time but the life is tough and you don’t know what may trigger you to gamble again, so start to build a prevention strategies that will work as a buffer between you and gambling again, ( for example of you have online gambling issue you can install web blocker, and you can cancel your credit and debit card so you will not have access to the gambling site and you will not have the way to deposit the money to the gambling web sites ). You can build similar strategies to help you to fight back.
4.2: If you have money the urge to gamble will continue, the perfect solution is try to involve a family member and give him the control at least for the first stage.

4.3: go through the forum, read the stories, the advises, the success the failures, if you are a gambler you can relate to each story. we know each other and we learn from the experience of each other

[Granfalloom]

Unfortunately

I’ve lost many times more than that. Already went through he emotion of winning then losing it all and more etc…. it’s a fight because you have built such a wall between yourself and reality!

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