[Jordy94]

So I have just lost everything and now have to go To work all week again for nothing, I feel so worthless and upset with myself my girlfriend is trying so hard to save up so we can get a mortgage together and I’m here loosing every pay check I need to stop but I can’t every impulse I act on, it is killing me mentally I feel sick I had so much money and I lost everything  I have been gambling everyday since the age of 18 I am now 24 i need to get my life back on track and beat this disease but I cant do it alone but I can’t tell my family because I promised them never again I can’t tell my girlfriend because it would break her heart knowing I’m suffering please someone help me because I can’t take this any longer ive contemplated just ending it all but I know I’m a fighter and it would cause to much pain on everyone around me because everyone I know loves me I am the light in everyone’s life except my own 🙁 it hurts so much knowing how much I would have had all my hard work I feel so drained and fatigued but have nothing to show for it, tomorrow is hopeful a new start for a new future 

[BEEM]

Hi Jordy sorry you are having a difficult time you are not alone.
Well done on posting in the forum reaching out to other people who have experienced gambling problems too will make you feel less alone. The Group chat is a good place to talk to us all as well and and you can talk to an advisor too. If you are having really dark thoughts i would recommend calling samaritans on 116 123 its 24 hours. You have your whole life in front of you it is possible to give up gambling with support clear debts and save cash again many on here have done it or are doing it. All the best

[vera]

Hi Jordy,

Welcome to GT.

I know exactly how you feel when you describe how soul destroying it is, working for nothing. The good news is you are young and you have family support. Ok, you said “never again” You and hundreds of gamblers, hundreds of time. Compulsive Gamblers can’t keep those sort of promises, Jordy because the need to gamble becomes greater than any other worthy need. Just slow down and plan your next move. Let’s admit it, when we have money,we gamble. When we “win”, we gamble more. When we lose we chase and on it goes until we are broke AGAIN. That’s the compulsion, Jordy. The flip side to that is, IF we do not have money, the compulsion is quashed . No money = no gamble. My first bit of advice would be TELL YOUR GIRLFRIEND. She is going to find out anyway. You know that and coming from the “horse’s mouth”will be more helpful for your relationship….give it a shot. Let her handle ALL the finances. You can’t do it right now. She cares about you…that’s why it would be another bad move to “end it all” because it wouldn’t be the end for her or for your family. It would be the start of their life of blame and regret- a dreadful legacy. Find a GA meeting near you. Walk in to a meeting and pour out your thoughts. Keep posting here. You have taken the first step. Well done!

[Bndet99]

Yo man, I just got on here myself. I, too, have lost hard earned money this week. Never give up man. Let’s get a day bet free!

[Jordy94]

Thankyou for your reply I haven’t gambled since I posted this which is very good for me, I have had depression for years which I’m on meds to keep me stable, I had £70 left in my bank so I withdrew that in cash so I can’t spend it, I have been promited in my job recently so I am trying to turn my anger and disappointment into smashing my role to try get promoted again and show I am good, I am also trying to help around the house more it seems i have a lot more time on my hands that I’m not looking at my phone for hours on end watching loosing bets, the only good thing is I have no debts at all and all my bills are paid for this month, another positive Is I have 30 hours holidays to take at work which I have put through to get paid instead so I should get paid around £500 on Friday, I will withdraw this is cash and put it with my girlfriends savings, Wednesday will be a hard day for me as my grandad has just passed away and it’s his funeral so I need to stay clear when I’m sad of gambling but hopefully I can stay positive

thankyou for taking the time to read and reply I really appreciate the support ❤️

[Jordy94]

Thankyou for your kind words I am trying to turn my negatives into positives i am now going to take all my money out when I get paid as I dont gamble with cash only when its in my bank as I don’t really appreciate it or associate it with being real money which I need to work on, I am feeling a lot more positive as today everyone was pleased to see me at work as it was a busy shift ane it’s nice when everyone is glad to see you like you’re saving them I even watched 2 football games at work without running to the toilet and placing money which is a start for me, ive realised gambling has ruined my love for football as I couldn’t enjoy  game knowing I had money on it but I enjoyed the games today because I didn’t have money on it so that’s a good step for me, I have no debts and all my bills are paid for the month and I put through all my holiday hours so my pay will be big this week so my balance will recover but I’m going to take it out in cash when I get paid as I don’t gamble with cash because I appreciate it 10x more when money is in its physical state, I am trying to keep occupied like right now i would usually be loosing £100 but I’m here replying to your beautiful words to keep me strong, I really appreciate it thankyou ❤️

[Jordy94]

its good to know we’re not in this on our own my friend we will get through this one day at a time, keep strong my brother our money will grow back and we will have more as we learn to live with the minimum when we have lost so if we stop we will see the huge benefits!

[dunc]

Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!

Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)

And on that note….

I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂

Take care

The Gambling Therapy Team

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[BEEM]

You are welcome good luck with it all and maybe see you in the group chats. Have a good gambling free day 

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