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HELLO ALL !
I am in a situation where I feel I need help and or st least a place to turn to .
i started going to casinos casually with my partner and mother. It was our way of getting her an escape from the loss of her husband.
over the last 8 years I’ve had fun … won Andre lost but over time losing is starting to hurt me more and more .
i keep trying to win just so I don’t feel beat .
i keep hoping to get at least a little of my money back.
thousands of dollars later , the sale of personal items recently to get my account comfortable hurts.
after selling my camera yesterday to have a reserve of funds … I still gambled this am. And now I just want to cry because I feel helpless . I don’t want to talk to my partner about this from shame. I’m afraid and feel worried if I don’t get this in check … I’ll blow up future money.
i wish I could understand why this is happening.
please help.
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I’m in the exact same boat as you I stopped for two weeks then today blew everything I had. But what we need to remember is there’s only one winner. That’s how it gets us because we’re forever chasing our losses the more we gamble the more we loose. We can all get through this together everybody makes mistakes but it’s learning from them that maters. Nobody tells us it’s going to be easy but it’s not we can do this!
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I am glad to hear that you want to stop before you lose everything. I never thought I would be in the place I am in. It is so sneaky that you are caught up before you realize it. You are on the right track by seeking help. I just joined here about a week ago and reading the threads and responding to others helps me remember why I am here. I am going to my first ever GA meeting tomorrow night. I am excited and scared. I have banned myself from the closest casinos but the town my parents live in is the casino capital of our state. There are at least 10 casinos in the small town of about 40,000 people. I have been stopping every weekend when I go see my parents. I am going to have to ban myself from those also. I have made up my mind. I keep telling myself that it takes a second to say no but it takes a lifetime to live with the regret of giving in. Hang in there. You are in the right place.
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Welcome,
I totally understand the shame you feel. The inability to control myself even though I knew what the outcome would be every single time. I would never leave until it was all gone.
Is there any way you can limit your access to money? If you don’t have it you cant spend it!
I know it seems daunting telling your partner. It was one of the most difficult things I have ever done. I was in a hole so deep we had to sell our house to get out of it.
I gave him total control of the finances. I could not be trusted with any kind of money. It was really hard, but it gave me some space to breathe.
I started much like you. My mother and I would go to a gambling venue once a week for a coffee and a ‘bit of fun’. I still cant pinpoint when that changed for me. I guess the first time I realised I could go on my own maybe?
Keep reading and posting here, you will get some great advice and ideas to help you manage your addiction.
Take care, Love K xx
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