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Hey everyone, first post here. I was always a good budget conscious person and no-one would be able to pick me out as a CG. I always wondered how people could ruin their lives gambling while I was growing up. Then it happened to me
I graduated with 3 bachelors degrees and I work in sales and have been successful for three consecutive years. The problem with sales is the income is so unpredictable, just like the outcome in gambling. Maybe I got addicted to the chase and not the wins, as they have never come. The most vicious thing about it is you keep chasing your losses just to try and break even. The cycle continues and bad situations simply continue to get worse. The real root of the problem stemmed from the fact that I had worked my ass off for everything I had made for myself and my mind would not accept the fact that it was all gone and never coming back.
The most dangerous thing that could ever exist is good credit and a gambling problem. I have lost everything I have ever earned and inherited. Slot machines are my posion. Over two years my win loss statements show over 100k in losses with no wins to boot. When you work in sales the income is also unpredicatble so it is hard to recover and I have finally hit the point there is no running away from. I currently have 4 $500 payday loans out, 4 maxed out credit cards totaling 12k, and my rent is late and I have less than a dollar in my bank account. My weekly (Draw) checks don’t even make the minimum payments on my cards and a good month of sales only catches me up on everything I am behind on. I am done with gambling for the rest of my life, but the proverbial hens have “come home to roost.” Has anyone else ever been able to escape the debt problems that have arose? My consolidation and loan options are unavilable because of my utilization and I feel so lost like there is no way out.
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Hello Anonymous and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
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Hi Anonymous one. Welcome to the forum. I wish there was a magic wand I could wave or a secret solution that would allow you to get all your money back. I never won big either. And almost always went home empty handed. I always felt that I was owed. Even though I knew that wasn’t how it worked. The machines weren’t Karmic. In fact plain as day the they were advertised by the government body running them as a losing proposition for the player. Especially the more you played. Didn’t stop me 🙁 I realize none of what I have said has made you feel any better. I can tell you that I survived. In my case I went for credit counselling and was told that i didn’t make enough money to pay all my bills even with a financial arrangement. They were right. In my instance a family member secured a low interest mortgage that consolidated all my debt and allowed me to keep my home and survive until I could pay things off. They don’t recommend a bailout. But in my case I knew I never ever wanted to have to admit to my parents I had risked putting my entire family out of our hom again.. Some members here have managed to work out payment plans with their different debtors. You call and tell them how it is and offer them what you can pay. What country or area are you in? It helps to know a bit more. There is also bankruptcy. What about attending a Gamblers Anonymous meeting? Some groups will hold a financial crisis meeting and help you brainstorm ideas for your situation? Please know that you are not alone in this. That things can and will get better. If you were in a tragic car accident and had all sorts of wounds the first thing they would have to do is stop the bleeding. That is what you need to do. Stop the bleeding of cash from your life into a slot machine. You say you are done and I hope you truly mean it for your own sake. What are you doing different or what is different that will stop you from making a bet again? I will pray that keep up the strength in your fight. Keep posting. Take care, Laura
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