HI Thenewjt, welcome to the forum, well done for making the step coming here. I used to think after each realapse i couldnt do it and stop, tell everyone the same story il stop ill do this ill do that, then each time it got worse and worse and worse, until i hit rock bottom, i sold my flat behind my wifes back and I lost it all wracked up debt up to my eyeballs , lost my job lost my family I had a 1 year old, there was no future for me, I new it was time to stop so my only option was to go to gordon moody rehav centre, i told people and myself so many lies i need to completely break the habit. It was alife saver for me, I managed to get my wife and little girl back and now im working again and gamble free for nearly 3 years and the happiest and healithest I have been, it is possible, the best advice i can give is to be open and honest about everything, any secret white lie will come back and bite your bum and you will end up back gambling, start to busget and transfer finaces over maybe to your future wife, use these rooms forums and consider Gordon Moody I wish I had 10 years ago but kept saying i can do it on my own. there are som many of us like that out there, but you can do it. Im here for you and if you want to ask anything feel free

Originally i gave control to my wife and she still has control, but times before coz i had no control i wanted secret money, but now i have an account and its monitored by my wife I get to feel a sens little sense of control, hows things goig today?

Hello JT.

You are being honest when you say no urges-because you’re totally broke. But why do you only expect to be gambling free til Saturday?

If you know you have money coming, and you know you will get the urge, why not stand tall and make a stand now. If you cant ask your girlfriend to look after your money please confide in someone you trust and ask them to keep your bank card over the weekend.

Debt mate for a lot of us will be an ever present for the remainder of our lives.

You are in debt because of gambling, you will not get out of debt doing the same thing as you did before. Try and turn the situation to your advantage, have you spoken to Stepchange they can help immensely with debt problems.

When I say turn it to your advantage I mean instead of seeing this mountain of debt as a reason to gamble. See it as the result of gambling, not just one very bad gambling episode but the result of hundreds of attempts to get debt debt free. Gambling does not cure debt, it creates it. And as you know debt is only part of the problem. In fact its not part of the problem its just one of the many consequences of gambling.,

Instead of letting yourself get concerned about a consequence of past actions, try and concentrate on taking preventative steps to avoid adding to it.

I earn between £11 and £15 per hour, my debt is over 200k.

The debt dosn’t consume me, it cant allow it to. I can live and enjoy life now. You can too mate.

Take care.

Geordie.