Hi Soppy,
Thanks for your post today. Encouragement from people like you is the key to beating this for me.
I tested the water with my family by saying that ”My Friend” has a gambling addiction and I got the same response. Thats why I havent told any of them and am dealing with it alone. (except for my GT friends)
Nothing worse than hearing someone saying ” Just stop”. If it were that simple we wouldnt be here. Seems like things are a bit up in the air at the moment, but if you keep a cool head I am sure you will pull through it. Your dads from a different era, and maybe never had an addiction he was trying to beat. Would be difficult to comprehend what we have to deal with. With regards to your wife, the fact that she is being nice means you have the support and love there. Don’t let the guilt make you feel ****.You got to use it to prove to yourself and others that you are now going to beat this. If you focus on feeling ****, you will do what I do and gamble as a punishment…
Keep your chin up mate, it can only get better.
LukeTomorrows another day. Just hope I don’t gamble it away…

***** soppy!! welcome to gt!! welcome to this forum where you will find so many similarities with others, where you will find comfort, where you will come to know that you are not alone, where you will find out how to come out of it, where you will learn how to forget the past and look to the future, where you will realize that everything is not lost till you want to try to leave gambling and where you will know that it can be done..
there are people here on various stages of their recovery.. each one of us have different stories and different problems but we are here for the same reason.. i never discuss my gambling problem with non cg any more as nobody will ever understand how can one get addicted to it that too when we end up as loosers every time.
hope you will use all the help and support available here to come out of this addiction and work towards your recovery. tomorrow will be better than yesterday.

well yeah i guess it dont really matter how we got where we are its a matter of figuring out how to stop it is the big thing. worry about today i guess cause the past is gone and never coming arround again. so why put so much effort into somethng ya have no control over. you do have power of the here and now so stick everything into that i guess.

Good on ya for seeking out supportive, understanding people. When I first found this site  was really desperate for some sort of answers so searched online- after seeing a counsellor who sorta said- "oh well looks like you know what you need to do and have your head around it all- you’ll be fine"- i got home and after gambling some more- searched online for some sort of explanation or reasons- or some stories from others in the same situation- i thought i was the only one with this problem.
When i found this site it was an eye opener- i had no idea so many others experienced pretty much the same cycle as me and also found themselves confused about it.
I feel for ya- that you dont have much support- but i can relate. My mother says the same thing- ‘just dont go’. Even tho she knows first hand about gambling problem- ive seen her behave exactly like myself while gambling. When i told her proudly that i had decided to give all control of money over to my bf she scoffed and said "thats a stupid idea- how do u expect to get through life without having money on you? Or what if he just leaves with all the money or spends it all?"…(and on and on…) So Ive decided to not even talk to her bout gambling or what i am doing to stop- or my progress because i just dont need the drama. (my boyfriend says- "our money and what we do with it is our business anyways babe- and if she dont want to be supportve wen ur taking practical steps to help yourself- then forget about her support- her opinion will only undermine your efforts." So im going with that. 
Just really gotta take steps in your recovery for yourself- and get the support where you can.
Stay strong and gamble free.